pity morality

Pity is a trait that punishes the actor. The pitier sees unfairness and as a sentient being, the pitier tries to alleviate the suffering, a noble act, but why must one suffer to help another? "...It requires every happy human being to soil his soul with the sadness of the most miserable, and thus multiplies human misery far more than any physical disaster ever could..." and "... Helping those people that you feel sorry for, and feeling sorry as often as you can...".
More disturbingly it causes the pitier to pass over the goodness in this world=> "...According to the morality of pity, a truly moral person does not fill his consciousness with the thoughts of Shakespeare and the emotions of Beethoven; his soul reverberates only with the wailing of cripples and the moans of the starving. He does not formulate dreams and plans of his own; he merely responds, like a Pavlovian dog, to the ringing of a bell from a sickbed..."
It would seem to me if one were to try to alleviate suffering, one should decide what to do, a formidable task since how does one really know if one's charity is not only not helping but exacerbating the suffering, and set aside time to do the task. Or to be more "division of labour" like, work extra at one's trade and donate the extra proceeds to a charity in w/c the deeds can be fulfilled more efficiently.